I have trained for a very long time. I would tell you how many years but someone would comment that they get tired of hearing me say how many years I have trained.  Over these years, I have trained with some great training partners, trained with some shitty ones, and I have trained solo.  Whether I am training with a training partner or training by myself, it is always by preference and not by coincidence. What I mean is, if I want to train with a kick-ass training partner, I will find one and do just that. If I prefer training by myself, I will do that. 

Over the 36 years that I have trained (there, I said it), the very large majority of that time I have trained by myself.  There are pros and cons to both, of course, but the pros far outweigh the cons (for me) when it comes to training by myself.


1. I do not have to be on time and I have total control and flexibility over when I train. 

This is probably the number one reason that I prefer training by myself. My schedule has always been such that I sometimes have to flex the time that I train. It used to be due primarily to raising 4 kids, but these days it is more because on any given day, I may have more or less work to get done. Being flexible with my training time allows me to give more priority to my business.

2. After training as long as I have, there are things that I don't want to compromise or negotiate when it comes to training. 

I have past injuries and some movements simply do not work well for me. I also have weaknesses that my training partner may not, so we would likely have different things to focus on in the gym.

I am a bit of a control freak in the gym due to training by myself for so many years. If I want to start a chest day with cable flyes prior to a pressing movement, I don't want my training partner arguing about it.

3. I set the tempo and the "style" of training for that session when I train by myself. I don't need to hurry, and I don't have to deal with a training partner taking their sweet time causing me to go longer between sets that I may prefer.

4. I don't have to listen to my training partner's drama or shitty day at work. I don't want to sound insensitive but, honestly, I just don't give a shit. I am at the gym to train, not to listen to why Karen used too much copy ink and didn't reload the machine. I don't care if you didn't get enough sleep, and I don't care if your stomach hurts because you ate bad chicken. I just want to fucking train.

5. I train harder by myself than if I am training with someone.

This might seem strange most people but I abhor someone yelling at me, thinking they are motivating me to get another rep. That shit quit working for me about 2 decades ago. In fact, it is distracting in the sense that it makes me feel douchey because it attracts attention that I simply don't want. I used to want attention when I was younger. Now that I am older, I much prefer training when no one is in the gym or the gym is closed and I have access after hours. 

When I train after hours (like I do now), I train harder than any other training scenario. I don't have to worry about what anyone thinks and if I want to be loud, I can. If I want to train without my shirt, I can. I can take video or pictures without feeling douchey. I also never have to race the clock when I train after hours because there is no deadline to finish my session.


1. I don't have a spot if I am doing something like benching. 

2. I don't have anyone to help me get my elbow sleeves on.

3. There isn't a third con. That's how much I prefer training by myself.

There are times where I do prefer to train with someone but it is typically after a long period of training by myself. This is due more to break up the monotony because after only a brief time training with someone, I start to regret it, usually. 

To me, bodybuilding has been more of an isolative endeavor than it has been something that I find to be a "brotherhood." Back in Colorado at Armbrust Pro Gym they still have Sunday leg days where everyone comes in on Sundays to train legs and kind of feed off of each other. I trained there for years and did not do that even once. I have never had much of a desire to do the bro-thing. 

When the gym is closed and I am the only one there, I am where I want to be. Honestly, I doubt I have felt more comfortable, anywhere, than in that place at that moment. 


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