In today’ I am on about something not training related at all, but life related. And as you may know, many of my logs are. In Old Man Conjugate: Carrying the Box, I’m going to discuss putting loved ones in the ground for their final rest.

I’ve been asked to carry the box (be a pallbearer) more times than I want to for people I care about. Some blood related, some not. All family. And it is one of the highest honors that can be bestowed on a person.

You see, regardless of your religion or culture, many if not most people believe there is something after death. I am not sure where I stand on that but it is a very common belief that spans cultures worldwide.

Carrying the Box makes you the usher into the “afterlife” or whatever you believe it to be, for the person who has passed. You are guiding them safely to their final resting place.

That is an awe inspiring responsibility.

And a gift from the person who asked you to do it.

I was going to write about deadlift cues to day, but that changed. As many of you realize if you are a long time reader, writing is a coping mechanism I use for my emotions. I like to share my observations and insights in order to hopefully help you in case you are going though the same thing as I am. I’ve shed many a tear on my keyboard as I write some of these logs, just as I am now.

My Log plans changed because I am Carrying the Box tomorrow for a family member.

He was my cousin, but he was more like my pain in the ass little brother if I had one.

Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam , carrying the box, C.J. Murphy

“May the road rise up to meet you,

May the wind be ever at your back

May the sun shine warm upon your face

And the rain fall softly on your fields

And until we meet again, May God hold you in the hollow of his hand.”

Old Irish Blessing

Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam Mike.

I’ll be Carrying the Box to the big boxing ring in the sky for you.

Did you see my episode of Table Talk?

Watch it here

Did you miss last week’s log?

Read it here.



Vincere vel mori

C.J. Murphy

October 4, 2023     

Total Performance Sports