elitefts™ Sunday edition
Who You Spend Time With
Some Thoughts
Before posting the article, I wanted to share some of my personal thoughts on this topic.
- Negative people are too much of a pain in the ass to spend much time with. If you can't avoid them, then only communicate when you have to.
- These people do not have the power to bring you down or ruin your day. Only you have the power to do this and the sooner you realize this, the better off you will be.
- Negative people are also the one's who believe they are experts in everything and go out of their way to offer unsolicited advice on just about every topic under the sun to prove how smart they are. Remember this, those who really know don't need to show. Their results do the speaking for them.
- Surrounding yourself with people who are smarter than you and know how to keep their head up and look for solutions are the ones you want to spend most your time with. Find people who are "solution" oriented not "excuse oriented". If you put yourself with those who are better than you at a specific subject or skill you WILL increase your game - you will get better. I do agree with something Tony Robbins said many times, "Love your family and friends, but choose your peer groups. You can't pick your family and friendship can run deep. You can and should develop peer groups who hold high expectations of themselves and YOU."
- If you begin to become negative, you need people around you to pull your head out of your ass. These people are not easy to find but they're out there.
Spend Time With Positive People - Your Dreams Will Thank You For It
"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." - Jim Rohn
So... who are you keeping as friends? Who you are with on a daily basis has a big impact on whom and what you are, and who you are becoming. So, doesn't it make sense to surround yourself with like-minded people who will elevate and support you and your vision?
Each of us can likely remember a time (or perhaps you are in this situation now) when it seemed as though you were fighting to stay positive -- when instead of feeling free to proclaim your big vision for the future, you were constantly defending your ideas from those who would say, "You're thinking too big. Be practical. It's not going to work. You'll regret taking such a risk."
Now, some people just have your best interests at heart, and there are times when you should be cautious in your business decisions. However, if the same people are reacting negatively to your ideas and plans on a regular basis, it is likely that their own decisions - and lives -- are governed by a negative, fear-based point of view. In order to "please" them, you are required to impose limits on yourself and your ideas. They are like an anchor to the status quo, and will keep firmly settled in with them if you allow it. Now, think of a person with whom you could hang out with every day. Perhaps this is someone with whom you like to brainstorm about new ideas, who shares similar goals and dreams. This person shares your vision, and not only appreciates your ideas, but helps you take them one step further. When you have a business challenge - a new project, a solution to a problem - think about how much easier it is to face it when you have like-minded people (some of whom may have experienced a similar challenge) on your side. These positive, high-energy people are your best cheerleaders and supporters, and are there to help elevate you to the next level.
In my life, the colleagues and friends I hang out with on a regular basis have HUGE dreams and vision - the same as I do. I make an effort to spend the most time with people who are living large, with grand dreams. Sadly, not all my friends and family share big dreams and the desire to do better so I have to limit the time I spend with them. I don't want to be brought down and told I'm dreaming too big. So I choose to spend time with other big-thinkers and big-dreamers!
They're not always on my block or in my town, but thankfully, the internet is a great place to find and network with people who share the same values and goals and want to 'spend time' with others who do. I've met a lot of great people on the web. And while communicating via phone and email is great - I choose to also find ways to be with these people in person - by traveling to meet them, or going to live events and workshops that are of interest to us all.
Low-energy people bring you down. High-energy people elevate you. It makes all the sense in the world to surround yourself with the latter, doesn't it? This does not mean that you must sever your relationships with people who might have negative tendencies. But you may want to limit the time you spend with them, or how much you share with them, and at the same time, increase your contact with the positive folks. Focusing on high-energy, positive relationships is in your best interest, and the best interest of all who know you, because it will bring out your best self.
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