Well it's been two weeks and I haven't done anything. I ran the monolift today for my training partners, changed a few weights for them, and made fun of them.

--Mentally I'm holding up OK.

--Physically- my ham and glute still get achy or cramp up at weird times. I talked to Dave and he said not to worry for now. Also I'm getting achy in places that I didn't think were bothering me (Dave also told me ahead of time this would happen). Knees, elbows, shoulders, ankles feel like I'm playing football again. But I'll be squeaky clean in a few more weeks...I hope.

Speaking of football...

I had the same defensive coordinator my final three years of college football and to be honest I really disliked the man. I didn't play a down of football for him. I played for my teammates.

--To put it in perspective, we traveled to my hometown to play the RMU Colonials, which he knew it was my hometown because he asked me on the bus ride there. This was my Junior year and I split time with a senior the whole season...except for that game. Magically I didn't play a down that game minus special teams.

--I respected him for his knowledge of the game, but I despised the way he treated us. He was usually pretty negative and always yelling shit like- "IF YOU MISS YOUR GAP THEY'RE GOING FOR FUCKING SIX AND THE FUCKING BAND WILL BE PLAYING. YOU WANT THAT??" Well no, dumbass, we don't want that. I respond better to an arm around the shoulder or pat on the ass and a "do you understand why we're doing it this way?" kind of talk. 99% of people perform better when they're primed to be positive. It's proven. Long story short, my senior year, we lead the league in defensive statistics. We were good. We played well together and we played hard for each other. I'm still friends with the majority of those guys today (specifically the 11 that started on defense).

However, to his credit, that coach had two great sayings...(he always yelled hence the caps)...

(1) "DO YOUR JOB." -don't do someone else's job, that's how shit gets fucked up. Do your job and the rest takes care of itself.

(2) "YOU GET WHAT YOU EMPHASIZE. YOU GET WHAT YOU TOLERATE." It took me a couple years to realize how brilliant and how prevalent this was in every facet of our lives.

--In the past year or two I've been guilty of going with the flow, getting into a funk or a bad mood, and feeling sorry for myself. I would always ask myself why I was feeling bad or what the problem was, but was never able to give myself a substantial answer.

--Well it's as simple as one day something negative happened to me (usually regarding women, my kryptonite) and I let it spiral. I tolerated myself thinking negatively, blaming myself for what happened, blaming them for what happened, wondering why I couldn't just be happy, why did I cheat on them, why did they cheat on me...

--The problem was I never emphasized anything. Now to be fair, I didn't really get it until recently. You shouldn't be looking for the right person, you should just be trying to be a better person and letting the pieces fall where they may. Let me say that again...

YOU WILL ONLY BE HAPPY IN THE END IF YOU WORK ON BEING THE 'RIGHT' PERSON RATHER THAN LOOKING FOR THE 'RIGHT' PERSON. Got me?

Tony Robbins says all of this very eloquently, so take the 5 minutes and listen to this. I'll challenge you to listen to it one time every day for a month straight. If it doesn't make a difference in your life send me a message and I will find you, we'll drink a fifth of whiskey together, and surely come up with a solution at that point.

Tony Robbins clip- How to Pull Yourself Out of a Funk

And it ain't no fake kind of happy...

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